The Long Game
The one thing every single person we spoke with agreed on.
Across every interview we conducted — different ages, different life circumstances, different relationships with work and retirement — one thing came up every single time. Not finances. Not purpose. Not relationships.
Health.
When we asked people to imagine their 85-year-old self looking back and giving thanks — what would they be grateful for? — the answers were consistent. Andrew said health would be his measure: whether he managed his eating and drinking, whether he kept moving. Ben put it plainly: health is wealth — all the money in the world means nothing if you can’t use it. YC spoke of being thankful for the new experiences she was still having. Andrew framed it simply: “No need 85 — now I turn back, I’m already happy. But at 85, we talk about health more, because whatever you do now, in 10 years it will come and haunt you.”
Not “I hope.” More like: this is the one thing I cannot afford to get wrong. Because by this stage of life, every person knows someone whose later years were shaped — or cut short — by health that wasn’t tended to. The awareness is universal. The question is whether it becomes action before it becomes urgent.
The paradox: more time, less discipline
Here is something that surprised us in the conversations — and that will probably surprise you too: several people exercised more when they were working than after they retired.
CH, who retired at 55, is the most honest about this:
“When I was working, I actually exercised more than I do now. After work I would go for a run or go to the gym at least once or twice a week. But now everything is just so open that exercise is just not part of the plan anymore. My cholesterol is going up, my weight is going up. I’m fully aware of all that. Just very difficult to just do, you know, put on a pair of shoes and go out and run when you’re so comfortable at home, just sitting in front of TV or something like that.”
— CH, retired at 55
This is not a motivation problem. It is a design problem. When work created a schedule, exercise had a natural slot — after dinner, before the day began, squeezed into a routine that was already structured. When the structure disappeared, the slot disappeared with it.
The lesson is not to feel bad about it. It is to design the slot back in — deliberately, before the cholesterol numbers make it urgent.
Physical health: what to design deliberately
The people who are doing this well have made physical health a non-negotiable anchor — not a goal to work towards, but simply part of what every day contains. Andrew exercises 5 to 6 days a week, mixing it up — the gym, a swim, or the TRX station at the public exercise area down his block, depending on the day. Ben starts every morning at the gym. ST gyms regularly. SM does yoga. YC does Qigong and nature walks. The form varies. The consistency is the common thread.
Research on healthy ageing supports exactly this: it is not the intensity of exercise that matters most in this stage of life — it is the regularity. Short, consistent movement is significantly more protective than occasional intense sessions. The goal is not peak fitness. It is staying mobile, maintaining muscle mass, protecting cardiovascular health, and building the habit that makes everything else easier.
What to build in, practically:
A morning anchor. Something physical that happens before the day gets away from you. A walk, a swim, a gym session, a Qigong class. The timing matters — morning exercise is harder to defer than evening exercise, because nothing has had the chance to get in the way yet.
Strength training — the earlier the better. Building muscle in your 40s and early 50s creates a buffer for the accelerated muscle loss that begins from around 50 onwards. If you’re already in your 60s, it is not too late — strength training at any age improves functional capacity and reduces fall risk. It doesn’t need to be weights: resistance bands, body weight exercises, and swimming all count.
Diet — the part that’s easy to let go. Andrew is honest about this: he eats and drinks in ways that his exercise can’t fully compensate for. Ben has a heart condition he manages carefully with diet. The freedom of retirement removes the dietary constraints that work inadvertently imposed. Without designing around this, it quietly gets worse.
Regular health screening. Not because anything is wrong — because catching things early is categorically different from catching them late. The government’s Screen for Life programme subsidises screening for common conditions. This is an area where procrastination has asymmetric costs.
Cognitive health: the fear nobody talks about openly
YC named it directly — and she is not alone in feeling it:
“I’m getting forgetful. Sometimes I wonder, why like that? When I was young, I looked at older people and wondered why they were so forgetful. Now I’m at that stage — I understand. It’s normal. But it still worries me.”
— YC, retired at 58
The fear of cognitive decline is one of the most common — and least spoken about — anxieties in this stage of life. Watching a parent develop dementia, noticing the first moments of forgetting, wondering whether the trajectory is already set. These are real concerns, and they deserve a real response.
The research on cognitive health is among the most hopeful in all of medicine: the brain retains significant plasticity well into old age, and the lifestyle factors that protect cognitive function are largely the same ones that protect physical health. Regular exercise, social engagement, continued learning, good sleep, and diet are all strongly protective. None of them are passive — all of them require design.
What the people in our interviews are doing — consciously or not — that protects cognitive health:
Learning something genuinely new. Andrew’s Spanish and degree. Ben’s crochet from YouTube, his sourdough experiments, the trips where he researches every destination before arriving. The cognitive benefit comes specifically from novelty — familiar routines don’t produce the same effect.
Social engagement. CH’s board games are not just socially enjoyable — they are cognitively demanding, involving strategy, memory, and attention. The Harvard Study of Adult Development found that social connection is one of the strongest independent predictors of cognitive health in later life.
Physical exercise. The evidence connecting regular aerobic exercise to reduced dementia risk is among the strongest in the literature. It increases blood flow to the brain, promotes neuroplasticity, and reduces inflammatory markers. This is another reason CH’s exercise gap matters.
Sleep. Consistently underrated and under-discussed. Sleep is when the brain clears metabolic waste, consolidates memory, and repairs itself. Poor sleep is one of the strongest modifiable risk factors for cognitive decline. Retirement changes sleep patterns — for better or worse — and it is worth paying attention to.
Mental health: the part that doesn’t get enough space
Mental health in retirement is shaped by all of the above — and by one additional factor that is easy to overlook: the loss of the sense of being needed.
Work, for all its frustrations, gave most people a daily sense that their presence mattered. That things depended on them. That they were contributing something. When that disappears — and especially if it disappears abruptly — the psychological gap can be significant. This is not the same as boredom. It is a quieter, more persistent feeling of reduced consequence.
The antidote is not to recreate the urgency of work. It is to find other ways of mattering — caregiving, mentoring, community contribution, the people who depend on your presence and attention. We cover this more fully in the next post, Staying Meaningful Without Needing to Be Important. But it is worth naming here, because mental health and purpose are not separate dimensions. They are the same question asked from different angles.
A question to sit with
Your 85-year-old self is looking back at you right now. What health habit — the one you keep meaning to start, or the one you used to have and let slip — would they most want you to begin again this week?
Not next month. This week. What is the smallest version of that habit you could do tomorrow morning?
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