Post 4 of 10 · Thinking About What’s Next
Not just your working week. Your whole life.
Here’s an exercise that sounds simple and turns out to be surprisingly difficult.
Imagine a week — not a perfect week, not a fantasy — but a genuinely good week. One where you go to bed on Friday feeling like you actually showed up for your life. Now describe it, hour by hour.
When people try this, two very different pictures tend to emerge.
Some find their sketch is almost entirely about work. Relationships, health, rest, meaning — all squeezed into the margins. That’s not a personal failing. It’s what happens when you’ve spent decades in a career that consumes the foreground.
Others go the other way entirely. No work at all. Travel, family, hobbies, friends — a full and genuinely enjoyable week with zero professional activity in it. If that’s you, that’s worth taking seriously too. It may be telling you that work has been taking far more than it deserves, and that what you actually want is not a better career but a different relationship with work altogether — or none at all.
Both answers are useful. If your ideal week is all work and no life, the question is: what else needs to exist? If your ideal week has no work in it, the question is: what does that tell you about how much longer you’re willing to stay in the current arrangement — and what would it take to make that financially possible?
The part nobody plans for
The Harvard Study of Adult Development is the longest study of adult happiness ever conducted — over 80 years, across hundreds of people. The researchers wanted to understand what actually predicts how well people age and how happy they are.
The answer was not wealth. Not achievement. Not career success.
What the 80-year Harvard study found
The single strongest predictor of wellbeing in later life is the quality of your relationships — not your finances, status, or career success. The people who thrived in their 70s and 80s were overwhelmingly those who had invested in relationships in their 40s and 50s, when life was busiest and it would have been easiest to let them drift.
Loneliness, the researchers noted, is as physically damaging as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
— Harvard Study of Adult Development, ongoing since 1938
Exercise and sleep follow close behind. Not as moral obligations, but as foundations. Without them, everything else — motivation, clarity, patience, creativity — runs on depleted reserves.
The implication is uncomfortable for people who’ve spent years optimising their careers: the things most predictive of a good later life are largely not work-related. And the time to start building them is now — not after the pivot, not after retirement, not when things slow down.
What we heard from people who got this right
Andrew retired in his early 50s after a long regional career — described his daily life with a quiet satisfaction that had nothing to do with professional achievement:
“Three things. Regular exercise — people don’t realise how much time it takes when you do it properly. Continual learning — you need to use your brain, keep it engaged. And staying connected. You don’t need many people. But you need to find the few meaningful ones, and you need to invest time.”
— Andrew, retired at 53, describing what a genuinely good week looks like
He wasn’t describing a retirement plan. He was describing a life architecture — and he’d been building toward it well before he left work.
CH, 59, who’d built his second act around caregiving for his mother, regular board game sessions with friends, and genuine community, was refreshingly honest about his gap:
“You’d think that with no job, you’d be very free. But I realised I don’t even watch that much TV — my days are full. What I have to work on is the exercise. I know I’m neglecting it, and I know what it costs.”
— 59, three years into retirement, reflecting on what still needs attention
He’d nailed the relationships and the meaning. The physical health was the honest gap. The awareness was there — the system wasn’t yet built.
Design your ideal week
Try this on paper. Draw a week — seven columns, morning to evening. Fill in what you’d want it to look like if you were designing it intentionally, not just reacting to what comes at you.
Six things worth building into a good week
- Work that stretches you without breaking you — how many hours, and what kind of problems?
- Movement and physical care — not punishing, just consistent enough to matter
- The relationships that fill you up — scheduled deliberately, not left to chance
- Learning or making something — even 30 minutes a day compounds over months
- Rest that actually restores you — not scrolling, actual rest
- Something that connects you to a purpose beyond yourself
Then pull up your actual calendar for last week. Compare the two pictures.
The gap between those two pictures is your design brief. Not a reason to feel guilty — just useful information about what still needs to be built.
One important caution about visualisation
Imagining a better week feels good. But research by psychologist Gabriele Oettingen found that people who only imagine their ideal future can actually become less motivated to achieve it — because the brain registers the imagined state as partly real, and relaxes before any actual work is done.
The more effective approach: after sketching your ideal week, immediately name the single biggest obstacle between you and it. Not a list — just one. The real thing standing in the way.
If your ideal week looked genuinely different from last week — what is the one thing that would most need to change to make it possible?
That’s where the work begins. Not with a perfect plan — just with that one thing.
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